Timewasters what do they get out of it

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guy06516 (0) 3/24/2018 7:37 AM

as it says in my profile, to me there is a sexual aspect to wrestling whether it's just the idea of men in a physical confrontation or an actual sexual component to a match ( JO after a match or wrestle for top etc.) so i like there to be a mutual physical attraction when i wrestle with someone.. there is a lot of close physical contact, with sweat and smells etc so being attracted to the person is a necessity for me.. i have always been conservative sexually so i don't get on the mat or in the sack with everyone that challenges or propositions me... for this reason i will NEVER have a ton of matches or reviews on this site and i can tell you that on only my 2nd day on this site.. as a new member i would hope that this would never dissuade anyone from contacting me if they find me attractive or we have similar interests but from being on dating sites, i know all about time wasters and flakes so i understand the concerns people have... all i'm saying is maybe there are other reasons why somebody may not have a ton of reviews on their profile...

p.s. - i asked someone for a facepic since he didn't have one and i couldn't have been nicer about asking for it, and he said he wouldn't show one to me until i set up a date to wrestle him.. i said i couldn't commit to wrestling him until i could see if i am attracted to him and then he started berating me and calling me names.. after calling him out for being a dick, he blocked me.. again this day 2 on this site so i hope this isn't an indication of what's coming down the pike on this site... everyone is "tommy tough nuts" when they challenge you to a match but they have no balls to show your face ? ridiculous.. maybe a facepic should be a prerequisite for making a profile on this site.

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fullwellfighter (8 platinum) 3/24/2018 7:00 PM

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Hi,

For what little it’s wirth, I am in entire agreement with you.

There are a whole load of timewasters and this side of the pond too.

Your comments are clearly stated in your bio and that’s great. It can’t then be a “surprise” to others when they meet you.

Sadly, it seems some guys don’t get it and block you for asking for the most basic things. Like you, I always ask for a face pic.

Sending you good wishes from this side of the Atlantic.

Respect and happy fighting! 😀

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Nightmareera (0 ) 3/24/2018 5:38 AM

Well visited my profile but dont want to chat

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lovetoroll (0) 3/23/2018 4:42 PM

same problem ,here they look at profile and mark you as favorite, after that nothing waiting for match

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Tynesider (76) 5/30/2010 7:40 AM

I see Biker is having the same problem. I still think this site is the best for discouraging this.

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iainscott 8 (45) 10/21/2009 6:08 PM

ikf is totally correct there!

I have exactly the same problem running speedo-wrestlers. If all the enquiries I get turned into actual club wrestlers we'd have hundreds on the mats!!!

A lot of it comes down to confidence and being sexually-excited at the time they make initial contact. They are typing with one hand on the keyboard and one hand elsewhere.

Once they have 'unloaded' the excitement they then lose further interest.

Other guys are just very nervous of meeting new people and being "worried about making a fool of themselves". They think everybody else who wrestles is a total expert and they never will be.

Their anxiety constantly gets the better of them and they never really make it in the end.

My experience has been that with the confidence guys when they do eventually reach the mats and wrestle at our club they are usually relieved and so pleased they have finally done it. Some go on to be good wrestlers.

My experience with the sexual guys is that when they actually experience the rough and tumble of wrestling they either love it totally or they just never come back. Too often the latter as the fantasy fails to match the reality.

Iain

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ikf (29 ) 10/15/2009 11:21 AM

I think one kind of timewaster is a person who wants to fight, but for some reason cannot actually get into it - they want, but they can't.

So I tend to encourage them to get into fighting, to go out and start training, to go out and find fighting partners, etc. If they show promise, I tend to spend more time enouraging them. If not, I cut it short with something like "get back to me about how your training goes" or "I'd be open to giving training advice if you started training".

I have a small number of guys who, after only longing after it for meny years, actually took up fighting and started to train and/or go out and find matches.

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Admin 10/15/2009 9:40 AM

It is as they say, "Idle hands are the devil's workshop". Basically, these people have too much time on their hands and no constructive way of spending it. Unfortunately, people who actually do have a life and duties can never match the amount of time the wasters have, the best you can do is cut your losses at one point.

Sometimes it's just nuisance, but it can also be dangerous. There's a guy who had the dubious distinction of being one of the only two people I have banished from AllFighters. Apparently now his using his enormous free time that he has previously spent harassing our members threatening me with legal action unless I unban him. Other than the fact that this constitutes blackmail, and as such is a felony punishable by 1-5 years jail time in my jurisdiction, dealing with this takes time I could devote to things like, I don't know, actually improving this site. Sites ran by corporations have a legal department to deal with these issues, but I don't.

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Tynesider (76) 10/15/2009 7:58 AM

No names please, I don't want this to descend into a slanging match.

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