I have been on here for a couple of weeks and I have ran across a problem...trying to meet people who are serious about meeting!! People on here say that want to meet and than, you never here from them again. Another problem I have is...I thought meet fighters was a website, where people travel ANYWHERE... for a fight, it doesn't matter if it's in a big city or a small isolated city, like mine!! Why should it matter where i'm at, what's wrong with YOU..going out of your to see somebody?? especially if that person is willing to help with travel expenses.

I am very frustrated about this and wish I could meet men who didn't mind traveling to small/isolated city's and was serious about meeting ASAP!!

I just want to get this off my chest..i've been on here before and deleted it, because I wasn't getting no where with it..I hope I don't have to do that again. Hopefully this time around will be great and I can live out my fantasy with someone serious!!

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Last edited on 5/30/2018 7:20 AM by I want to be your punching bag
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osakarob (10 gold) 5/30/2018 3:48 PM

I had to look up your hometown - Muscle Shoals, AL - on google maps. I can't tell for sure, but it looks like you are relatively near Nashville, Memphis and even Atlanta. Have you thought about traveling to those cities for a possible meet-up?

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I want to be your punching bag (0) 5/30/2018 7:11 PM

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I'm unable to travel. I would be willing to pay for hotel room, food and gas if someone from nearby cities were willing to travel

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munichsubfight (72 support) 5/30/2018 4:57 PM

It may be true that many guys travel to big cities and have a fight there.
But I strongly doubt that they travel purely for the fights.
My impression is rather that they travel for some other reason (business, holiday,...) and take the opportunity to catch a match along their journeys.
And the bigger cities just have way more travellers passing by because they have way more reasons to travel there.

Not all members will "travel ANYWHERE... for a fight".

Also it can take a long time for a travel opportunity to arise.
There´s one guy, it took me over four years till I had a journey taking me to his city.
If that guy would have vanished and reappeared every year he might not have been online when I planned my journey, and even if I would not have known that this is the very same guy I was waiting for four years to meet.

Patience was very important for quite some of my meetings with fighters.
Patience might be important for you too.

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I want to be your punching bag (0) 5/30/2018 7:12 PM

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I appreciate you responding to my post. I didn't consider those reasons

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power559 (7 platinum) 6/02/2018 11:42 PM

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Hey dude–just giving you some credit for listening to what people had to say back to you, in response to your post, AND for your being fair with them and yourself. Especially right after you were pretty upset about something that had just happened to you - it's good to see someone keep a rein on their temper.
👍🏼

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Jedi (28) 5/31/2018 4:25 AM

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I would echo Munichsubfight's advice about patience. In many cases it took me years to meet some of my opponents. In the interim, we chatted and got to know each other well. When we finally did meet, we met as good friends, not as strangers.
It is very kind for you to offer to assist others with expenses. Many of us have had the unfortunate experience of traveling someplace only to have the person no-show, cancel, etc. Traveling to a location just to wrestle may be a risk others are not willing to take until knowing a friend/opponent very well/very long. Focus on the long term.
On the plus side, the name of your town, "Muscle" Shoals, should be an added attraction!

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I want to be your punching bag (0) 5/31/2018 5:30 AM

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Thank you for your input. I don't mind getting to know someone, but I don't want to wait years, just to meet. I feel like if we as questions and get to know each other, maybe after a month or two of talking, we can go about meeting..

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FighterGuyy (148 translator) 5/31/2018 8:23 AM

I agree with those before me. I would only add that putting the word "ASSSHOLE" into your profile introduction might not be attracting as many people as you might think. It just reads like a rant.

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Ironbull (107 platinum) 5/31/2018 5:41 PM

The hard reality is that people will prevaricate for at least the following reasons and maybe more:

1. Work/family/partner and lack of free time
2. Money and meeting the cost
3. Get to know you first to make sure your safe
4. Lacking the confidence to say no politely
5. Like the punchbag fantasy but nervous of the reality
6. Fitness issues

There are guys I have been nodding to or chatting to for years before we actually meet. It has always been worth the wait.

I don;t think there's a site or even a club in the world where people are 100% motivated to get up and do it.

I get maybe 2-3 real meets a month. I live in London so have all the facilities and a dense population. even so, my ratio of prospects to actual meets is around 1 in 7 or 8. So if I have to work that hard, you got to expect an even lower ratio if you are living in a rural community or small town.

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Johnpunchgut (0 ) 6/05/2018 12:58 PM

I'm kinda sensing this is directed towards one person? amiright?

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I want to be your punching bag (0) 6/06/2018 5:17 AM

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No..it's not..it's directed towards anybody..

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Johnpunchgut (0 ) 6/06/2018 5:20 AM

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Well ok then, we just have to get use to those type of guys..

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