I’ve been on and off this website a fair few times and that is the joy of having a difficult health condition which has taken up a lot of my time. However with a clean bill of health and a desire to get back in the ring I’m hoping 2018 is the year!

I do suffer with anxiety at times and this can cloud my judgement. I worry that I offend people, that I make the wrong choices or say the wrong things or that I have somehow annoyed them. Most of the time this isn’t the case, I’m told, and I just need to relax.

About ten years ago I met someone online and he was charming, kind and good to look at. Exchanges were had and we agreed to meet. When we did see each other in London he was every bit as charming in person as he was online. He asked if I wanted to go back to his and despite my gut feeling I agreed.

My anxieties eventually took over, and this was when we had walked about a mile and London has turned from the tourist expected west end to something out of Harry Brown or a Stanley Kubrick dystopia. I made some excuse and said I had to go. It didn’t end well. I ended up with an injury, a dent to my confidence and a lifetime anxiety.

So I ask please be patient with me and if I ask something over and over I may just be nervous or just really keen. Or both.

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Vanman (87 ) 6/30/2018 9:42 PM

Stick with it pal.

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Blue Star (7) 6/30/2018 9:47 PM

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Thanks matey, chin is up!

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SubsGuy82 (30 bronze) 6/30/2018 9:46 PM

Stick with it mate. We've messaged each other countess times, always found you to be a great lad, polite and courteous. I'm sorry you had a bad experience.

Great you can be open about your anxiety too. If people can't be patient with you then they're not worth meeting in my opinion.

Chin up, take your time and trust your gut feeling 👍🏻

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Blue Star (7) 7/01/2018 1:21 PM

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Cheers mate

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Merseywrestle (72 platinum) 6/30/2018 10:20 PM

Know how you feel mate I suffer from depression and anxiety which can be overwhelming at times. All I can say is wrestling can help to control it, the focus you need, the fun you can have and the guys ( and there are genuinely good guys) you meet can have a surprising effect. Always here if you need a chat.

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Blue Star (7) 6/30/2018 10:32 PM

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Cheers mate appreciate that

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Chris Flashman (9 bronze) 7/01/2018 12:55 AM

You've posted this blog; you're being honest with yourself; you're being honest with everybody else. Well done you! Others take note...

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Wrestleme (16) 7/01/2018 12:58 AM

I think it is great you feel you have been able to post how you feel on here. Go with how you feel. That is the right thing to do. X

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Twister81 (4 gold) 7/01/2018 3:18 PM

Mate I suffer and it's very difficult. Plus if you are body consious it compounds the matter . Resulting in me personally having panic attacks .. just try and stay positive and you are more of a man for posting this here .. much respect mate

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Blue Star (7) 7/01/2018 4:08 PM

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Thanks fella

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Wrstlr1 (15 gold) 7/01/2018 5:01 PM

Really great blog post, I think a lot of people naturally over-worry about the opinions of others which is exacerbated significantly with anxiety. Don't try and second-guess or manage others expectations, just manage your anxiety and the rest will fall into place.

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Jedi (28) 7/01/2018 6:35 PM

I echo everyone's comments; well done being open about these struggles we share. When anxiety or depression is long standing and having a significant impact on life (change or cancel plans we would rather keep, diminished social or work functioning), then it may be an indication of a treatable condition.

Serotonin is one of the neurotransmitters responsible for us experiencing "calm/happy". Some of us don't have enough. (Some lucky bastards are awash in the stuff!) Modern anti-depressants treat both depression and anxiety by increasing serotonin levels by blocking serotonin's "drain" (reuptake), so more stays around to do it's job, restoring the balance that's been lacking (SSRI). Other meds add a bit to another transmitter, neuroepinepherin (SNRI).

Discussing with your family doctor/general practitioner is generally all that is needed. They know about these medications and are comfortable prescribing them. The highest success rates are when medication is combined with seeing a psychologist to help change any behaviors or mindsets that have developed because of the low serotonin levels.

Treatment continues a minimum of 6 months after symptoms are gone, then weaning the meds are considered, to see if the body has learned to produce enough on its own. If mood/anxiety worsen, long term treatment is considered. It's not a crutch any more than long term insulin is for a diabetic. It is a treatment for a serious condition impacting our life, and the lives of those around us.

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edscissors (23 platinum) 7/03/2018 3:08 PM

A brave post. Good luck to you: you sound a kind, considerate, worthwhile person. I'm sorry you had a bad experience. As others have said, there are plenty of good guys here on the site and I'm sure many of them would love to meet you.

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Duncan10 (0) 7/03/2018 5:00 PM

Great to read such positive helpful messages . Meetfighyers at its best can be be a good community of guys

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Jimmy Elijah (51) 7/03/2018 10:38 PM

Aww buddy. Your presence is a present. Hang in there

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Pitbull (41) 7/03/2018 11:26 PM

Hello Rob weve met a good few times over the years and hope has helped with you to enjoy wrestling and to try and trust people you meet. The first tosser you met does not and should not have a place in your thoughts . Keep your Chin up mate . Gaz.

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seokyo (4) 7/04/2018 5:00 AM

Just curious but you said,” I made some excuse and said I had to go. It didn’t end well.”

Did he assault you????

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Vanman (87 ) 7/04/2018 8:13 AM

The next sentence tells us what we need to know.

"I ended up with an injury, a dent to my confidence and a lifetime anxiety."

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Merseywrestle (72 platinum) 7/04/2018 9:08 AM

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You do what you tell me big guy..you push through it. You lean on the people who give a damn as physical injuries and mental ones - invisible, tougher but they can heal too, you've proved that..

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Jedi (28) 7/04/2018 7:43 PM

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And in this example, "anxiety" may not have been; it may have been picking up on red flags, taking action while one was able, getting out when one could. If a person assaults someone for having cold feet, think how much worse it could have been if that change of mind took place once in their apartment?

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Toughsnowflake (8) 7/21/2018 3:26 AM

I’ve got really bad anxiety, I really understand where you’re coming from man

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