Andi2's blog

3rd Month on Meetfighters


My first Blog was about my initial impressions
Of meetfighters, as I was a new member at the time.
It was very exciting to join this site and seek the
Opportunity to bond with my brothers.During my excitement I made some bad decisions out of passion instead of common sense.
Adm did message me a list of the rules of the road.
One of the big ones was to avoid arranging matches that are out of your Town and state.
It's risky for a number of reasons.
I found out the hard way.
I couldn't help myself because there is a delima.
It may be real or imagined on my part.
The perfect opponents Seem to be located out
Of town, and I don't mean a suburb or neighboring
State. They are halfway across the country.
I live in Chicago. A big city. Not a rural town.
You would think that there would be an abundance of opponents here. Not.
So far I'v only had one match. Yes I sent out
at least 2 dozen request that went nowhere.
Mostly because of the reality of the distance.
What boggles my mind is that I see many
Profiles of guys that id have a session with
In a heartbeat.
Though I look at their profile which may look good,
and notice that they've been on the site for months
and some for a few years With 0 opponents and 0
recommendations.
Does that make us losers or are we just being Picky?
Finally I'd like to add.
Please don't respond to someone who's interested
In having a match with you if you have no intention
Or interest in them.
It's a waist of your time and theirs.
Don't even bother to respond at all.
You can also just say no.
Saying no is less painful than leading
Them on to think they're going to have
an exciting match.

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Last edited on 1/10/2018 6:04 AM by Andi2
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Comments (31)

synxiec (31) 7 days ago

Good And Fair Points. Equally Unfortunate As An Experience. I Hope 2018 Is Better For You.

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Andi2 (1) 6 days ago

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We'll see.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 6 days ago

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If you were local to me, I'd be inviting you here in less time than it would take light to travel one nanometer. WOOF. Same goes if yur trav'lin' my way

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Andi2 (1) 6 days ago

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Thank you,
Again, the people
On a higher ground
Like you are alwaya
Unfortunately halfway across the country.

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Andi2 (1) 6 days ago

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Something is wtrong with this page. Its shrinking.
So Spruceman I am Accually replying to you final comment.
I am aware of gaugeing the punch session. Its all about choosing an opponent who has a sense of your limits. Coleman punched me pretty hard, but he was respectful and sensitive to my limits.
Thanks again for all
Of your support advice and help, in
Guiding me throught this process.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 6 days ago

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Thank you. It's a standing offer. If you ever make it this way, let's do it.

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Andi2 (1) 5 days ago

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Sure, I'll consider it. I do need some healing time if I ever decide to venture out of town
again..

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 5 days ago

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Before travelling any distance to travel merely one person, I'd suggest lining up a few (different times of course) in some city; so if one or two flake, there's a fallback.

Better yet, find some gathering, such as those listed on this site, where you can go and meet quite a few people. Make friends there with guys you can travel to in the future as known quantities.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 6 days ago

It's not you. Nothing you have done wrong. Same problem here – local guys hardly ever invite other locals unless they are cute, young, and sexy. Been getting the same story from guys all over the country. People see someone from out of town willing to travel your way and it's a case of birds swooping down on fresh road kill (1) Maybe the only chance ever to meet up (2) Allure of the exotic (3) Less likely for one's friends to find out if you get your butt whipped royally. (4) The local is around for a long time, try him only when really hard up.

There are probably 300 men here within 30 miles of downtown Washington DC; and I have tried almost every one over the past two years, except for egregious mismatches – no more than a dozen or so in the affirmative. Most my new guys I meet are from out of the area – and often you got to be quick at even these, as the locals are like the crown waiting outside the store on "Black Friday" to pounce on the out of towner the second he posts he's available.

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Andi2 (1) 6 days ago

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Spruceman,
Cute, young, and Sexy?
That sounds like a brutal
reality check LOL.
Seriously thats just the medicine I needed.
Years ago when I was young
Cute and sexy,
I wanted to box and get gut
Punched so bad that I went
To the Hustling spot here in Chicago and paid Thugs from
The projects to do it.
So doing it now, and expecting to find others into it for free is even more of a challenge.
The cute young sexy ones
are the ones most likly to
Try and abuse guys in our age group. Trust me, they ain't that cute to me.
Even the legitimate ones
are immature and not focused.
I probably won't approach
any more members under 50
in the future.
Thanks again for your input.
It Is always insightful, supportive and helpful

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 6 days ago

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I wasn't exaggerating. I think you are hot – so hot looking hell itself would go out of business knowing it got its ass whipped. I'd work you over all you want – not one scintilla (whatever a scintilla is) more. My profile/pics/recommendations/blog have the full story about me.

As to the young guys, I made it a point to meet up with some twenty somethings on and near my 75th birthday, so I could make them tap like a flock of woodpeckers --- good for the ego.

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Andi2 (1) 6 days ago

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I bet you could work my gut over.
I like the photo of
U with the leather
Pants and vest on.
All you need in the photo is leather gloves to punch my
Stomach with
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Spruceman (48 platinum) 6 days ago

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Leather gloves? C'mon. I see you as a real man who wants the feel of knuckles against your gut. YOu might even want to feel some metal there, not lady-like gloves. Don't sell yourself short–You are a man. Great match report suggests you like it rough, hard. Be hot to put you in my extra leathers and video it – getting worked over, and if you are not shy about it, put up on the site.

Have you toughened up the lower gut, between the navel and the top of the crotch hairs (where muscle ends and fragile cartilage starts)? BTW. When I get set to gut punch a guy, I check him out to make sure it's safe for him. Too often that lower gut is not safe territory for him.

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Andi2 (1) 6 days ago

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Don't worry I'm
I'm not a pussy.
I had thugs from the ghetto punch me. Believe me they didn't play. Some punched me like a pro boxer. They highest complement I ever got was from a gang banger who told me I should consider becoming a boxer because of the amount of punishment I could take.

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Slim66 (14 bronze) 5 days ago

Well sir, you must realize that some people are flaky. I know it seems cruel, but some people are here only for a show. I experienced the same problems when I came on the website. Do not become discouraged. There are guys who want to wrestle.

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Andi2 (1) 5 days ago

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Thanks Slim66,
You have been a Rock for
For me since day 1.
A simple but sensable
way to look at it and move
forward.
Can't wait to wrestle you
Soon.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 5 days ago

It's all kind of moot for me. It's been a decade or longer since being invited to a one-on-one match with anyone near or far. If I hadn't bought all those mats and set up a matroom here at the house, and keep mats in a shed for the back yard, my opponent count wouldn't be 48 – It would be zero (nearly half the guys on the site are zero. Obvious I'm not young, cute, sexy. [Been invited to a few gatherings, such as the Wrestlefests in Pennsylvania, and a couple smaller gatherings in Ohio and New England Not a peep locally.

I know guys who could get a match or even more any and every day if they had the time – It's a world of marked contrasts.

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Andi2 (1) 5 days ago

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Yes it very frustrating.
I had no idea It would be
So complicated.
I could understand if this
Was a dating site,
But it's not.
It's supposed to be about the fetish.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 5 days ago

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Fetish and/or honest-to-gawd SPORT as well. I know guys who are here strictly for sport, guys who cover the spectrum from 100% gay to 100% straight. Because there aren't sites out there for pure sport action without the red tape of amateur wrestling officialdom (so I am told). Very few guys on any of these sites have use for men over 50 or so years old.

In some respects, many guys requirements are so narrow and precise, that randomly speaking, there might not be a single person on Earth who could satisfy them.

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Andi2 (1) 4 days ago

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Yes,
The ageism issue is huge. It doesn't matter how fit and
Good looking you are for your age, they scroll down and see your stats.
And if 50 or older pops up its an instant turnoff.
For everyone that rejects me for that reason there's another one who will embrace me
And want a match.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 5 days ago

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PS. Don't let it get you down. There are times, the inability to get any kind of matches from local guys might make you feel like "The World's Most Unwanted Man," Believe me. I feel that much of the time given how I feel locked out from local seemingly cabals. Every city apparently is like that. The only way around it is find a place where you can host or to travel. If you can make it to near Pittsburgh, check out the Wrestlefests held 3 times a year in that area. You'll find some guys even into punching – especially if I can find a way to get out there. I wish the DC area had such get togethers. My regret is that my place is such that hosting as few as six or eight men would have severe logistical problems.

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Andi2 (1) 4 days ago

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Thanks again,
I'll consider your
Recomendations,
Though it seems like a lot of work
and compromise just to get punched in the stomach.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 4 days ago

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Certainly can't argue with you about that last sentence. Sometimes I think I am a fool to be putting in a hundred hours on line for each encounter I actually find. Even if one values his time at the minimum wage, that's a high price for a match. No wonder some guys with the money PAY lots to get a match. As one such guy told me, it's quick and they always show up, and on time.

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Andi2 (1) 4 days ago

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You know I have to get the last punch in.
If I could afford it I'd leave this webb and pay for it too.
Much more convenient.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 4 days ago

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and if I had the money, I'd join an mma school if one were nearby.

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Andi2 (1) 3 days ago

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And self confidence is huge too.
We must maintain our self confidence no matter what age we are.
If we don't love our self, others will pick up on the karma and hate us too.
So I say screw those with the age issue as that is really an individual issue. You're as worthy as you present your self confidence.
Cute young and sexy doesn't always = Hot.
Maturity =equals knowing how to hit that spot
With precision,
And thats were the real turn on comes in.

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slimp (0) 17 hours ago

I let people know that I'm not really available, except for chat and such. I think that's the most important thing - to be honest about intentions. There's a really small chance that I'll be able to travel and experience some GP adventure, but I hope no one's holding their breath.

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Andi2 (1) 16 hours ago

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Thanks Slimp,
Thats the reality check thats
Sinking in.
As much as I'd like to go on a gut punching boxing tour across the country.
It's just too costly, at least to do it in one year.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 17 hours ago

Kind of perplexes me that fewer than 3 percent of locals will hit the mats with me; that nobody local will do or try pro with me; and only gotten an invite to their mats one time in two years. Good thing I have a great mat room; otherwise my past opponent count might be 4 to 8 rather than 48. I suspect it's mostly looking at age rather than ability/strength. Question is if the age thing relates to expectations of wrestling ability or a matter of sex appeal?

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Andi2 (1) 16 hours ago

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Well Spuceman,
I think that age and sex appeal is in the eye of the beholder.
We can't let go of that thought other wise we might
as well give up fighting. ( no pun)
When I first signed up I did have two matches planned
With guys living right here in Chicago. One guy was 20 something the other was 31.
Both expressed interest but
Strung me along for months.
I'd check in with them. theyed
Say they were Definitely interested , yet I couldnt get them to comit to a date,
So I cut them lose.
I decided to use more pro active assertive language not
disrespectful mind you,
Recently with potential opponents. I figured it would
smoke them out if they were
Fake. All it got was a huge BLOCK from them on me. Lol.

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Spruceman (48 platinum) 10 hours ago

A goodly (badly) number of folks on all these kind of sites who seem to live only to lead guys on, string them along, give them false hopes, and never actually meet up. I've had a few guys who have done this for years. They are like the beast in the movie "Alien." We all could BLOCK the bastards; but don't do so, hoping to find out why they do this.

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